It is just a trend, but you have to remember that this trend means something different than what it used to. Your dad is part of a generation, where only drug addicts, bad girls, promiscuous girls, satanic girls and other low-life's, wore black nail polish. I remember, even when I was in high school, back in the 90's, that it was worn for shock value.
Now, back when I was 16, we all knew that the girls and even some of the guys who wore it, were harmless. Most were pretty smart, often involved in band or theatre, and were just trying to be a little shocking. It was right in there with wearing black lipstick or dying your hair jet black. Even the Goth kids were pretty harmless, and we didn't really have Emo yet, although the haircuts still existed. Those kids did get a little more attention, which is all they ever wanted, and it didn't really both too many people, unless you were pretty ignorant.
But see, your dad is probably older than I am. I'm only 30, although, I guess if I had, had a kid at 14, she'd be about your age, so theoretically, I'm old enough to have a kid your age. Likely though, he's probably in his 40s, and to him its a worrisome indicator. He's comparing you to the 16-year-old girls he knew, when he was 16. He's not keeping-up with modern trends and he's not really interested in what's cool now.
Like he said, ';It never leads to anything good.'; You have to understand, that he's taking an interest in you and is concerned for you. You should be happy you even have a father, much less a dad who's actually concerned about you. You should be happy he's paying attention to you, and noticing things like the colour of your nail polish. Do you have any idea how many girls don't have a father, much less a real dad? Do you have any idea, how many girls who do have a dad, have one that doesn't pay attention to them, and doesn't care about them or their well being? Cut the old man some slack. It may be he's a little ignorant about new tends, but he does care about you, and if you have to sacrifice a few trends, which you wont even care about a few years from now, then its worth it, to maintain your relationship with him.
I know that there are plenty of girls who would gladly throw away their black nail polish, if it meant having a dad who cared about them, this much. When he stops caring and starts ignoring you, then you can worry. I wouldn't fight him on this. It seems arbitrary, and you can always wear all the black nail polish you want, once you move away and go to a university. You'll probably be leaving in the next year or two anyway.
There is kinda an invisible line actually. Its that line where dad's don't know what's cool. They can only compare it to what things where like when they were that age. Yeah, its not fair. Most dad's aren't even really all that interested in learning what's cool either. The one's who tend to be kinda absent and let you get away with one thing, tend to be really absent and let you get away with everything and they just don't care. Be happy he cares.
I think you should take it off to please him, but you can express yourself in other ways. There are other trendy things you can do. I remember, when I was just starting college, one trendy thing was to do different designs with shoe laces. This group would often buy trendy sneakers, and then would buy different colour laces, and would even lace them differently. There are apparently books and websites, that feature instructions on how to do fancy lacings. This never really offended anyone, and even if you could only afford one trendy pair of shoes, the laces were cheap, and it was a way to keep them looking different, and interesting. I think that's probably still trendy in some areas. Its one of those things that never offended anyone, and didn't really have a secondary meaning.Why is my dad freaking out about my black nails?
Well, sometimes Dads are like that. Often, if you just resolve the initial conflict, like in your case, you took the polish off, then people are more willing to listen. In his case, your Dad was then willing to listen to you, when you explained it was just a new trend, %26amp; doesn't mean anything bad.
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hi how are you? dads what can I say they sometimes worry to much about things that we don't think it is a big deal/he just loves you so much that he worries about your appearance.
Maybe your dad thinks you are going to the dark side or something just because you are wearing nail polish.
Even though it is a trend right now for you and maybe your friends why not just take it off to please your dad maybe you could put a different colour you like and then decorate with a little black on the nails cause it does not look so bad for your dad (like black spots or lines or whatever you thinking of doing for decoration).
I am not telling you what to do it is your decision of course but do you really want to fight and argue with your dad over black nail polish?
good luck with your decision and I think it is a good Idea to talk to your dad about it one on one in a mature manner
all the best
I sometimes paint my nails black, I am not goth or a devil worshiper. LoL. Tell your dad its just a color and it's not like you're pregnant or have piercings or tattoo's. Tell him there are other things he should worrying about other than the color you decide to paint YOUR nails!
You should wear all black one day and wear black lipstick and eyeshadow and tell him you are a satainist just to get a rise out of him and when he gets shocked or mad tell him ';just kidding it's just black nail polish dad!';
It's just a trend, like you said. There was a HUGE freak out back in the 50's-60's era over bright red nail polish and lip stick, you were a sult (spelled wrong on purpose!) if you wore this color...see how silly it is now?
You should probably just reassure him that you are not in a cult of Devil Worshipers who are sacrificing small animals in your spare time, unfortunately that's the stigma attached to black these days..
Good luck!
so it seems that DR. Stef is saying that if you paint your nails black then you will end up pregnant... WHAT ARE THEY PUTTING IN FINGERNAIL POLISH THESE DAYS?! OMG!!!!!! Anyways... enough of listening to the moronic DR. over there. If you like it, sit down with your dad and ask him why he feels that way. Explain to him that you arn't out there doing drugs or drinking (and if you are, lie to him for gods sake. we don't want him to have a heart attack) and tell him that you like the way they look. Try to come to a compromise with him.
Tell him there are far more worse things you could be doing than painting your nails black.
Lol or just simlpy ask him why it makes him so upset, and explain to him it is just a trend and you like how they look.
Explain to him that's it's just a fashion trend. Maybe get some magazines and show him celebrities or models with black nails. Not all people with black nailpolish are goth or emo (maybe that's what he's thinking..).
he is right I got married in black nails
didnt turn into anything good
black nails are goth,,,,,add yellow or orange stripes show some respect,,,,meet half way on this,,,,,
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